Stepfamily Consultation and Counseling:
Barbara Perlmutter is
a certifed social worker and psychotherapist.
is the founder of Stepfamily Consultation and Counseling and has
worked extensively with individuals, couples and groups who are
facing remarriage and stepfamily issues. She received her Master's
Degree from the University of Washington in 1986. Barbara is a member
of the Academy of Certified Social Workers and is a clinical affiliate
of the Stepfamily Association of America.
In addition to participating in ongoing professional stepfamily
training and consultation, she has several years of "on-the-job"
training with her three teenage stepchildren. She combines therapeutic
understanding, personal experience and common sense to provide a
unique opportunity for gaining new insights and making positive
changes in your stepfamily relationships.
|Stepfamily Consultation & Counseling
613 19th Avenue East
Seattle, WA 98112
Why women have joined stepmother support groups:
- To "feel like I’m not alone"
- To hear other women’s stories and experiences
- To get support and understanding
- To vent
- To receive ideas about how to solve stepfamily problems
- Because "I often feel 'crazy' in my new stepfamily"
Stepfather Support Groups
Workshops for Couples
Counseling, Consulting and Supervision Services
Whether you are just starting out as a
new stepmother, have been stepparenting for years, or are considering
in a stepfamily, you are likely to find yourself facing a multitude
of personal challenges.
Among the common issues for stepmothers are:
a stepmother can be a challenging experience.
- Feeling overwhelmed
- Confusion about their role
- Challenges related to former spouses
- Isolation from other stepfamilies
- Feeling misunderstood
This counseling group will be...
- A place for you to receive encouragement,
support and understanding
- A way to increase your understanding
of how stepfamilies work and learn new stepmothering skills
- A time to talk about the importance
of nurturing yourself and your relationship with your partner...
even though you have kids!
- A place to honestly explore your feelings,
questions and reactions to the many demands this role places
on your life
Stepmother Support Group can really help!
To register, or for more information call (206) 329-1711.
Comments from group members include:
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"The support I've received is invaluable. I feel that I'm not
alone and that my problems and responses are normal."
"I've gotten so many positive ideas! And feedback that my boundaries
and limits are OK… and essential."
"The group has provided a network of wonderful women that have
validated my experience, made me laugh and given me a place where
it's safe to let it all out."
"It's been helpful to ventilate in a safe place, reassuring to
meet other stepmoms and see that I wasn't a horrible person for
having feelings of jealousy, resentment and anger."
"Even though stepfamily life has changed over the past 5 years
and is now quite positive, I still find the group continues to
give me the strength, peace and support I need for being a stepmother,
a wife and a woman."
Stepfather Support Groups
Meet with other men in stepfamilies for discussion, education and
conversation about what it means to be a stepfather.
To register, or for more information call
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One Day Workshops for Couples
Facilitated by Barb Perlmutter M.S.W. and
Steve Hunt, M.D. Starting a new marriage in a stepfamily brings
complications most of us did not imagine! It is not unusual for
a remarried couple to struggle with concerns such as these:
- Nurturing the marriage amidst the many
demands of stepfamily life
- Co-parenting and discipline issues
- Defining appropriate roles and responsibilities
- Handling finances and child support
- Negotiating relationships with previous
- Enhancing communication
For information on dates and times of
workshops call (206) 329-1711.
Comments from former group participants
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"Great information…good to hear that we're all in the same boat!
It's so helpful to hear the ideas and struggles of others in stepfamilies"
"It was great to share experiences and perceptions with other
couples. I gained a lot of information to process in order to
see what fits for my new stepfamily."
"Appreciated the information, thoughtfulness, humor, compassion
and honesty. So nice that a "step-couple" is leading it!"
"We found the group very helpful. We had been trying to become
a nuclear family, and now realize this is not achievable."
Counseling and Consultation for Individuals
Available by appointment.
Consultation or Supervision for professionals
working with stepfamilies.
Please call (206)329-1711
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Issues and questions frequently arise
in our communities that relate to stepfamily situations.
Who is authorized to pick up a sick child
from school? Where do school records, report cards and announcements
get sent? Where and how do mental health therapists encourage
stepfamilies to work problems out? What behaviors might one expect
from a child going through the remarriage process? Do our churches
and synagogues truly recognize and value stepfamilies? How do
clergy acknowledge various stepfamily members in weddings and
other religious ceremonies? Are stepparents able to "sign" at
a hospital for a stepchild with a medical emergency? With the
number of stepfamilies rising dramatically---by 2010 it's estimated
that there will be more stepfamilies than nuclear families---it
is essential that professionals in our public and private institutions
understand what stepfamilies are about. What makes a stepfamily
different from nuclear families? What are the ramifications of
these differences? What can we expect as these families develop
over time? What do stepfamily members need us to know in order
to serve them respectfully and responsibly? Education and information
Presentations and classes have been offered through:
Seminars, presentations and classes
- University of Washington Women's Center
- City University - MA Counseling Program
- Seattle University - Psychology Program
- Shoreline Community College Women's Center
- North Seattle Community College Continuing Education Dept.
- Bellevue Community College Women's Center
- Stonewall Family Services
- Seafirst Bank
- Fairfax Hospital
- Unitarian Church
- Bitterlake Family Center
- King County Employee Assistance Program
Building A Strong Remarriage & Stepfamily
Stepfamily Life: Defining Roles and Responsibilities
Stepfamily Life: Nurturing the Couple
Successful Stepfamily Living
Parenting in the Stepfamily
Clinical presentations to undergraduate/graduate classes
Clinical presentations to clergy, mental health professionals, and
educators (or presentation subject available by request)